International School Saigon Pearl (ISSP) pays much attention to educating students positively. This also contributes to the main goal of ISSP to help students develop comprehensively in knowledge, personality, and essential life skills to have a bright future. For more information about the positive education at ISSP as well as positive parenting, parents please read the article below.
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The impact of “spanking discipline” on the development of children
The “spanking discipline” is a traditional educational point of view in parenting. However, it is no longer suitable nowadays. Applying this method in a rigid and excessive way will place some negative impact on the development of children.
The result of “spanking discipline” is a scene of children crying and resentful. Children may listen to what they are told, but in a situation of coercion and no choice. At this time, they are afraid of the whip, or more exactly, afraid of parents and teachers. They do not understand the essence of the problem and what they have done is not right.
Many scientific studies have shown that the consequences of “spanking discipline” are the negative psychological impacts on children. For a long time, children tend to be introversive. As a result, communication and sharing activities with parents and teachers will begin to decrease. They are obsessed that if they say or do something wrong, they will be spanked again. This is exactly the negative impact of spanking on children.
Introduction to modern and positive parenting
In modern day, the new generation of parents in Vietnam has spent time learning about and cooperating with each other, and then applied positive parenting from many scientific studies in the world in educating their children.
Basically, positive parenting is the foundation for comprehensive development of children. In this method, children are always respected, listened to and guided on what they have not done right and what they can do to improve it. Parents can give their children compliments regularly on their strengths to help them be more confident in doing something. Thereby, the skills and behaviors that children lack or are not good at will be improved positively.
Emotions are also emphasized in teaching children without spanking. In particular, children will be taught how to express and control their emotions, retain positive emotions, and eliminate negative ones. They will also be taught how to set personal boundaries of right and wrong in order to have appropriate behaviors in specific situations.
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Some methods of teaching children without spanking
International School Saigon Pearl suggests to parents some methods of teaching children without spanking. Parents can apply these positive parenting methods in educating children at home with daily activities.
Patiently observing and guiding children
Firstly, in educating children, parents should themselves learn how to control their own emotions. If parents do not control their personal emotions well, they may impose these feelings on their children during the education process.
In daily activities, parents should patiently observe and then guide their children when they do something wrong or behave inappropriately. This helps children feel accompanied and trusted. The feeling of being imposed does not exist. Children will have time to think, boldly raise questions and opinions, thereby admitting mistakes and correcting them better. If children still do not do or behave as expected, parents should be patient and continue to observe and guide children time by time. Significantly, parents are role models for children to follow. For this reason, the more patient parents are, the more children will learn this virtue.
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Listening, respecting feelings of children and showing empathy to them
Communication with children plays an important role in teaching children without spanking. Parents should sit down and spend time listening to the story that children want to tell with their Mom and Dad sincerely. At the same time, parents also need to show empathy with what children are going through. More specifically, parents should put themselves in the position of children to better understand what they are thinking.
A great suggestion that parents can apply restorative practices from International School Saigon Pearl (ISSP). Parents can talk to their children by asking the following questions in order:
- What happened?
- What were you thinking at the time?
- Who has been affected or hurt by what you did?
- In what way were these people affected?
- What do you think about it now?
- What do you need to do to make things right?
- How can we make sure that this does not happen again?
- What can I/we do to help you?
After listening, parents should slowly explain to children what is happening, analyze problems and work together with them to find appropriate solutions. This not only has a positive impact on children, but helps them know how to analyze problems, form their own boundaries on what to do and what not to do, as well as be more responsible for their own actions.
Setting clear rewards and consequences for children
The method of teaching children without spanking should be done with clear rewards and consequences. Parents can assign appropriate activities for children. The rewards and consequences should also be discussed and agreed with children before applying. In particular, when applying, both parents and children need to seriously implement. Children who do well will be rewarded and encouraged. Children who do not do well will receive a consequence in a gentle and appropriate way, not criticizing but focusing on encouraging and creating opportunities for children to do better next time.
International School Saigon Pearl (ISSP)
International School Saigon Pearl (ISSP) is a prestigious and high quality international school in Ho Chi Minh City for children from 18 months to 11 years old. ISSP is proud to be the only international preschool and primary school in Ho Chi Minh City that is fully accredited by both the Council of International Schools (CIS) and the New England Association of Schools and Colleges (NEASC) known as two prestigious international education accreditation organizations. ISSP also became an IB candidate school to teach the International Baccalaureate Primary Years Programme (IB PYP) in 2021.
The educational philosophy of International School Saigon Pearl (ISSP) is teaching children without spanking, putting children at the center of education and empowering them. This philosophy always follows the Reggio Emilia educational philosophy and the IB PYP framework to help children develop comprehensively in knowledge, personality, physical health and essential life skills to become global citizens with social responsibility.
International School Saigon Pearl (ISSP) always encourages parents and students to visit the school to experience integrated international curriculum, modern facilities, teaching and learning activities of ISSP. Parents can book a school tour or contact ISSP Admissions Office for more advice via the phone number and email below:
Nowadays, teaching children without spanking is the modern and positive parenting that is widely applied by many parents in educating their children. This method brings many benefits for the comprehensive development of children. International School Saigon Pearl (ISSP) hopes that parents will learn more about this parenting and share it with friends to help the next generation for more and more development.